Tuesday, April 6, 2010

Me at My Worst

One of my favorite bloggers started providing writing prompts last week & I was so wrapped up in my own life that I didn't get a chance to participate.  However, I made up my mind there was NO way I was going to miss it this week.  If you do not already read Tattoos and Teething Rings you really have no clue what you are missing.  Nicole is a down to earth mom of two & wife of a guitarist who tours a couple times a year with the band. Now scoot - get on over there and check her out!!

2) Write about your worst personality trait or bad habit. Be honest; none of this "My worst habit is that I'm so kind to everyone...blah blah blah." Time to fess up! (And, since you are aware of this bad habit or trait, is there a reason you haven't changed?)

Oh crap Nicole - do you realize you opened a can of worms with this one?!?
I could choose to write about this:

OR this


Honestly, my jumping to conclusions has improved greatly over the last year.  Yeah sometimes I find myself jumping from lily pad to lily pad, but I can quickly stop myself - so I guess the first choice isn't the one.

yep I admit it, I react before thinking things through more often than not (ie: knee jerk responses).  It has to be one of the worst habits I have.   This response isn't to everything that happens in my life, but in things that I have emotionally attached myself to or if I feel like I am being attacked.  Case in point, I had someone tell me that they hadn't been honest with me like they promised.  I felt violated & hurt and I let it be known - afterwards I regretted the way I worded some things.  But as soon as I heard that, I went on the defense.
I don't mean to have these responses - I HATE that I do.  I wish that there was a magical switch that I could turn that part of my brain off, alas there is not.  However, when I feel my hackles start to raise, I do try some breathing exercises to slow down the adrenaline rush so that I am less likely to "call it as I see it".  It's better, but a long way from being fixed.  I'm sure it will take many years to correct itself seing as how it has had 32 years to develop


purejoy said...

awww. i know exactly what you mean. i am not very good at being "slow to anger"
it's something i'm working on, too!!
hopped on over from nicole's. so glad i did!

Tattoos and Teething Rings said...

Thank you for being so honest and open. I have worked really hard over the years on that same issue. I'd like to think that I don't do it much anymore, but I do catch myself doing it every once in awhile.

Thank you for the shout out and for playing along!

Tracie said...

I struggle with this, too. Heck, I have so many bad personality traits/bad habits that I'm still sitting here trying to pick one to blog about.

Heather @ Gerber Days said...

I have a hard time with this as well. The problem is that the only time I feel remorse, is AFTER the fact. I must say it, and then after I regret it. I really am working on thinking before speaking!

Found you on the link at T&TR. New follower! ;)

Mindy said...

I think it's so impressive that you are able to recognize these in yourself! I find that people who tend to be impulsive also tend to be fiercely protective of their loved ones and passionate people. :0)

Tina said...

I think you're very brave to write about this. I jumped right into the food memories. No way am I ready to blog about my bad habits yet...just getting started and don't want to scare away any potential followers my first time at "Write On"! Maybe later you'll hear about my perfectionism, my complete and total stubbornness and how I'm 99.9% of the time right about things ;-) On the serious side, it's nice to meet new blogging friends and I'm looking forward to getting to know this "club" better.

suzicate said...

Seeing it is the first step to changing it...I used to do it ALL the time, now I only do it HALF the time. Ok, I didn't say it's an easy habit to break! Good post.

Erin said...

I do the same things, too. I definitely need to learn to stop and count and take deep breaths!