Sunday, April 18, 2010

Why Can't I?

The other day as I was sitting on a friend's front porch I realized something.  My issue is not that I don't have people who want to be friends/friendly, it's that I don't know how to carry on a normal conversation.  They start talking and I give one word answers & don't expand on the topic.

Point in case, we had just finished having the pink redone on my Celtic Motherhood Knot, when a friend of the friend stopped by.  He asked "Oh, what did you have done??"  Instead of going into details of what it is & what it means to me - I showed him the tat & then proceeded to turn around sit down and smile like a dumbass.
thanks to google for the image

What is wrong with me??  Why can't I take a normal conversation starter & go with it??

Oh, and don't think that this is an isolated incident.  It happens ALL.THE.TIME.

What can I do to overcome this??  Have any of you had problems with this?

4 comments:

Tina said...

I'm the opposite, I talk too much. Maybe, since you recognize this, you could just start slowly. Say two sentences next time. Deliberately. Then maybe the time after that, a couple more...just a suggestion. And the person like me would need to work on pausing longer and letting the person like you take her time!

kathryn said...

Well, I think you've already overcome the first step, which is realizing that you're doing it.

Now that you're aware, you know what you need to do. Expand on your answers! It's that simple. Then, ask him a question...like, "Do you have any tats?"

It'll take off from there. People basically love it when you ask questions...

Karen Whittal said...

In your head have the conversation you would like to have had....... and then practice on your family... so the next time you are in that situation you would have already practiced your conversation..... it will take the doubt in your own ability away..........

Erin said...

I am like this a lot, too. sometimes worse than others, it just depends. if i have a little drink at a social function, it helps. but i know i can't rely on alcohol to loosen me up!